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Financial infidelity: examples and how to rebuild trust
What financial infidelity means, examples, how often it happens, why people hide money from a partner, and how couples bring it up and rebuild trust.
Money · 7 min read- Explained
Weaponized incompetence: what it is, signs, and what to do
What weaponized incompetence means in a relationship, common examples, how it differs from ADHD or a real gap in skills, and how to bring it up.
Mental load · 6 min read - Explained
Couples therapy: what it is and how to find a good therapist
A plain guide to couples therapy: who does it, the main approaches, what research says about results, what it costs, and how to find a good therapist.
5 min read
Words people use
Short explanations of the terms you’ll hear.
- Financial infidelity
- Keeping money secrets from a partner, like a hidden account, a debt, or lies about income.
- Financial abuse
- Using money to control someone, like running up debt in their name or keeping them from working.
- Yours, mine, and ours
- Keeping some money joint and some separate; a private account you both know about isn’t a secret.
- Full disclosure
- Every account, card, loan, and balance on the table at once, including the embarrassing ones.
- Credit report
- A record of the accounts and debts in your name, free every week at AnnualCreditReport.com.
- Money check-in
- Fifteen minutes every week or two to look at balances and upcoming bills together.
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- One hour, by voice
- The app asks the questions and gives each person a turn
- No real names, and only if all four agree